He apologized while I was pulling away in my heart

The husband was away for a long time and so when he was due home. I cleaned the house. I made sure the bed was made. I left towels and washcloths in the bathroom so it would feel even more welcoming. 


I thought I'd wash his vehicle so he'd have a nice clean vehicle. I accidently broke a part of the bug guard off. The hose at the car wash caught it and off it went so quickly! 


I told him what happened. I felt so bad. But isn't it amazing how while doing something for someone, crap like that tries to ruin it. 


Anyway, during the time away, I refueled the vehicle once. 


So when he got home he wanted the receipt. He also wanted to know what the mileage was when I refueled. I didn't remember. I can't remember that he logs the mileage at each refuel. I refuel this vehicle so very rarely. 


I felt like crap again. 


Then he said. Well if you can't remember to write the mileage. Just don't refuel it. 


I was crushed. I couldn't believe he was saying this to me. 


I told him ok. I wouldn't refuel again. I wont. 


I cried so much. It still hurt even today. It happened a few days ago. 


I did the routine of putting kids to bed, washing them up, reading stories, praying and giving sweet hugs. My kids keep me alive in so many ways. they have no idea how they are saving my life. 


He then stopped me to apologize. Said he was sorry for what he said. Are you really?  I said ok. 


I wont refuel again. 

Tonight I cried

I notice since my husband have returned from working overseas in Australia

I always keep hoping I can talk to him or just be honest with how I feel but it never seems to happen because of his little ways of shutting me down and basically telling me to shut up.

I remember telling my daughter to pick her sweat up off the floor for the umpteenth time that day and I was explaining to her why she can't just throw her clothes on the kitchen floor or etc floors and dh comes in to say. Don't do the whole drama thing, just tell her to pick it up. I went balistic. I'm the one who has to keep telling her to pick her stuff up and learn the right way to put things away. I was speaking calmly and explaining to her so she'd understand and perhaps not do the same ting next time. 

So while brushing my kids teeth tonight I realize what he is doing. He doesn't have time to listen to me talk. He doesn't want an explanation of what happened.
So I guess the illusion I had that maybe I could have more discussions with him is out the window if I can't have simple day to day conversations that happen in life.

I just need to keep finding the attitude to give the sex because it seems that's my only good contribution that wont get any put downs.

As they say, its life. You can't change someone else, but you can change yourself. that everytime I'm speaking or if he ask me something and I'm trying to explain it, he'll cut me off and say, I don't want the long story. I just want one answer. It hurts and it makes me cry.